Simple advice on friendship complications

I walked into my bosses office today to discuss some of the recruiting efforts I'm working on. Last week I wanted to grab coffee with him because I felt a lot of stress.

I mentioned to him a bit of what's going on in my personal life, mainly because it's been affecting my work habits. I know you should check that stuff out at the door, but it's not always so simple.

He gave me an anecdote of a friendship that went sour with Preston. He and Preston had been friends for a few years. They ended up getting into a huge fight over boyfriends and how often they invited the other one out. For example, my boss would be paired with a guy and would continue to invite Preston out to events and gatherings even though he was single. When Preston was paired up and my boss was single, it was a different story. This was the situation on the surface level but escalated into much more.

They got into a huge fight and my manager hung up on Preston and never picked up his phone calls for a year. After a year, they ended up working at the same company and Preston reached out to my manager to have lunch. Even though they hadn't talked in a year after a huge fight, they picked up their friendship like nothing happened. The main difference was that my boss didn't invite Preston out to events as often as he once did.

Essentially my boss conveyed time was the healer. That I can understand. I went through a situation with my best friend from middle school (and eventual college roommate) where we hadn't spoken to each other after a year or so after a huge tiff. We eventually picked our friendship like nothing ever happened. We still talk to each and visit each other often, even though we're not in the same city any longer.

I guess I'm just impatient with the current situation but am getting over the immediate need to have a resolution. I dislike conflict heavily (Oh, Libra traits...). I'd rather fight than flee. However, not everyone operates the same way.

Things get super complicated when friend sets are shared as well as living close in proximity to one another.

After not speaking to each other for over a month (on top of a few months of a rocky friendship prior), I'm ready to talk again. I honestly just hope he's doing okay and that he's getting the support he needs. I know that we're both retreating. It's incredibly hard for me to not know what's going on in his life since we were both each others go-to-guys. It's also hard for me not to reach out to him and ask for advice on things, especially since I'm going through a whole bunch of shit outside of this friendship complication.

It would be nice to have a time machine right about now...

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